Back in the bad old days, there wasn’t a lot of Lenormand information on the Internet. Seaqueen’s venerable blog was about it for English-language Lenormand resources (and you should go read it, as she’s still writing). My dashboard’s not working properly, so the links are messy (so sorry): http://seaqueen.wordpress.com/
Anyway, yours truly decided there was probably room enough for two, so I started freakyweb (you’re looking at it).
Over the years since it’s been down, I’ve had a lot of requests, especially for the card meanings page, information on layouts, and interpretations. Fortunately a fair bit of the blog was backed up. Unfortunately, I haven’t had a chance to go back and edit my writing, so some of the posts are still pretty sloppy – sorry about that. I’m also trying to get used to the new and not really improved WordPress format, so it may take a bit. There will be a links page again, as soon as I sort out how to do it.
I don’t know what’s going to happen to the blog in future, but if you find anything useful, feel free to use it – just don’t post it as your own on your web site or in a book – sadly that has been a problem.
And if you want to learn Lenormand, try AndyBC’s site at http://myfortunae.wordpress.com/ which is wonderfully written, and hey – he even offers a free course in Lenormand. Top-notch stuff.
Cheers all -
I don’t use astrology in Lenormand reading, simply because if you look at 20 different authors, you’ll find 20 different methods, and because we know that the Petit Jeu (the 36-card Lenormand deck) has nothing to do with the cards Mlle Lenormand herself used.
But if I were going to use astrology with Lenormand, I’d use a decanate, or face system. The faces, or decans, in astrology each cover ten degrees (and days) of a sign, and each have a planetary ruler – there are 36 decans, just as there are 36 Lenormand cards. So it makes a neat fit. Those of you who are familiar with the Golden Dawn’s system of astrological assignments to tarot cards may recognise this one.
Again, it’s not something I use. But if you want to have a play with it, my friend Dr Richard Farr, who teaches homeopathic medicine in California, USA, uses the Chaldean system of decanates in his Lenormand readings. Here’s how it works, including the rough dates. Some years this will be a day off owing to the Sun’s movement through the signs compared to our civil calendar, but it’s still quite precise to work with if you want to try the timing element with it:
Rider: 2nd decan of Capricorn (ruled by Mars, roughly 2 – 12 January)
Clover: 3rd Capricorn (ruled by Sun, roughly 12 – 22 January)
Ship: 1st Aquarius (ruled by Venus, roughly 23 Jan – 1 February)
House: 2nd Aquarius (ruled by Mercury, roughly 2 – 12 February)
Tree: 3rd Aquarius (ruled by Moon, roughly 13 – 23 February)
Clouds: 1st Pisces (ruled by Saturn, roughly 24 February – 3 March)
Snake: 2nd Pisces (ruled by Jupiter, roughly 3 – 13 March)
Coffin: 3rd Pisces (ruled by Mars, roughly 13 – 22 March)
Bouquet: 1st Aries (ruled by Mars, roughly 22 March – 1 April)
Scythe: 2nd Aries (ruled by Sun, roughly 2 – 12 April)
Whips: 3rd Aries (ruled by Venus, roughly 13 – 22 April)
Birds: 1st Taurus (ruled by Mercury, roughly 23 April – 2 May)
Child: 2nd Taurus (ruled by Moon, roughly 3 – 12 May)
Fox: 3rd Taurus (ruled by Saturn, roughly 12 – 22 May)
Bear: 1st Gemini (ruled by Jupiter, roughly 23 May – 2 June)
Stars: 2nd Gemini (ruled by Mars, roughly 3 – 12 June)
Storks: 3rd Gemini (ruled by Sun, roughly 12 – 22 June)
Dog: 1st Cancer (ruled by Venus, roughly 23 June – 2 July)
Tower: 2nd Cancer (ruled by Mercury, roughly 3 – 13 July)
Garden: 3rd Cancer (ruled by Moon, roughly 13 – 23 July)
Mountain: 1st Leo (ruled by Saturn, roughly 23 July – 2 August)
Paths: 2nd Leo (ruled by Jupiter, roughly 3 – 13 August)
Mice: 3rd Leo (ruled by Mars, roughly 13 – 23 August)
Heart: 1st Virgo (ruled by Sun, roughly 23 August – 2 September)
Ring: 2nd Virgo (ruled by Venus, roughly 3 – 13 September)
Book: 3rd Virgo (ruled by Mercury, roughly 13 – 23 September)
Letter: 1st Libra (ruled by Moon, roughly 23 September – 3 October)
Gentleman: 2nd Libra (ruled by Saturn, roughly 3 – 13 October)
Lady: 3rd Libra (ruled by Jupiter, roughly 13 – 22 October)
Lilies: 1st Scorpio (ruled by Mars, roughly 23 October – 2 November)
Sun: 2nd Scorpio (ruled by Sun, roughly 3 – 13 November)
Moon: 3rd Scorpio (ruled by Venus, roughly 13 – 23 November)
Key: 1st Sagittarius (ruled by Mercury, roughly 23 November – 2 December)
Fishes: 2nd Sagittarius (ruled by Moon, roughly 3 – 13 December)
Anchor: 3rd Sagittarius (ruled by Saturn, roughly 13 – 22 December)
Cross: 1st Capricorn (ruled by Jupiter, roughly 22 December – 2 January)
And there you have it. Some of the planetary assignments do make sense to me, others not so much. If you’re also an astrologer, see what you make of them.
Again, it’s an alternate system, and does have a built-in timing mechanism. I hope you’ll find it interesting.
For those of you who are just learning about astrology, I fear I’m throwing you in at the deep end of the pool here. But you’ll get a chance to see some of what horary can do.
For those who are astrologers, this chart is practically a textbook example of the kinds of things that can go wrong under a Mars-Saturn square – that’s our current astrological weather, so if you’ve been having a rather bad time of it lately, it’s probably hitting off something in your birth chart. Saturn is known as the greater malefic in astrology, and Mars as the lesser malefic. In most horaries you don’t want to see these planets connected, as it usually indicates trouble.
I haven’t gone through every single aspect in the chart, and you’ll notice that if you have some experience of astrology, but in a horary chart, you don’t need to. I also don’t want to overwhelm the folks who are brand new to horary. Bear with me here. We’ll still get it done.
I had a series of Lenormand readings about a theft from my home. And this week’s Lenormand reading came up with Fox + Book – falsified documents – or stolen documents.
As part of my pension, I get a gift card for groceries every month. The card didn’t turn up this month. It was posted on the 29th of last month, so that’s plenty of time for it to have got across town. I rang the synagogue yesterday, and with times being as tight as they are, they’re already out of money for the month. The gift card cannot be replaced. So…what happened to the card?
The chart was drawn for the moment that question seriously entered my mind yesterday afternoon.
Let’s look at some of the players. The querent – that’s me in this case – is represented by the first house cusp, and more strongly, by the ruler of the first house cusp. Sagittarius is rising, and that shows me as being represented by Jupiter in this chart, which is retrograde in Aquarius in the second house. Jupiter isn’t terribly well-placed in Aquarius, and retrograde is a serious debility. The second house rules the querent’s money and assets. That’s what I’m concerned about, so the placement makes a lot of sense. Surprisingly, the North Node, an indicator of gain, is also in the second house – which is a bit odd for a theft chart.
Where’s my gift card? The card is the quesited in astrological terminology – it means the person or thing you’re asking about. It’s represented by the 11th house in this chart, which rules pensions of all sorts – in the old books you’ll see the 11th referred to as anything from ‘pennies from heaven’ to ‘favours from the king’. The 11th house is Scorpio, and Scorpio is ruled by Mars, so Mars is representing the gift card.
Where’s Mars? It’s in Gemini, on the 7th house cusp. The seventh house rules open enemies and thefts, amongst other things. What does Mars rule in this chart besides my pension? My home, because that’s the 4th house and has Aries, the other sign that Mars rules, on the cusp. It rules my pension – we already covered that, as the pension falls under the 11th house, which is Scorpio. You’ll also notice that Mars rules secret enemies. That’s the 12th house cusp, and you can see it’s Scorpio as well. So I have the ruler of my pension, my home, and secret enemies sitting in the house of open enemies and theft. It’s not looking good.
Saturn rules the second house, because it rules both Capricorn and Aquarius. The cusp of 2 is in Capricorn, and 2 is my money. So the two major plaers in this horary are the two malefics of the zodiac – Saturn, the greater, and Mars, the lesser.
This is where the sense of doom begins to set in.
Saturn is squaring – making a tense aspect to – that rather nasty Mars – enemies, thefts, my pension, etc. The aspect between the two indicates that something has happened and it’s definitely not good – and that it involves the gift card, theft, enemies, my home, and my money. In short, it’s showing that the card was stolen.
Do we need more confirmation? Well, we can get some. A peregrine planet is one that lacks all dignity, and a peregrine planet on an angle often shows the thief in a horary question about stolen goods. Do we have one? We certainly do. The Moon has no dignity in Aries, and it’s sitting EXACTLY on the 4th house cusp – my home. Because it’s on the 4th cusp and because the Moon is in a masculine sign, I’m thinking the thief is a man who lives in the building. The card likely got put in the wrong mailbox, and I’m never going to see it.
What else? The Sun and Fortuna are in 8, the house of loss, opposing Jupiter (me, in my house of income and possessions). Fortuna’s in the house of loss, it’s not bringing me any luck, that’s for sure. Fortuna in the house of loss tends to take away things, not bring them to you. If you’re not familiar with Fortuna, it’s that litte round glyph with the cross in the middle of it.
The one glimmer of hope is that the Moon is making a trine, an easy aspect, to the Ascendant (me) in one degree, or for the purposes of the chart – one day. But the trine isn’t very strong, especially not compared to all the bad we’re seeing – and with trines representing ease, it could simply be showing how easy it was to steal the card. As I write this, it’s tomorrow already and the card didn’t turn up – it’s not been returned to me.
There are other things in this chart, which you’ll notice if you’re an astrologer. If you’re not, then we’ve outlined the main players and most of what they’re up to. Me – Jupiter; the gift card – Mars; the ruler of my money – Saturn; the thief – the Moon.
The gift card was stolen. By all appearances, it was stolen by a man who lives in the same building as me, and I’m not going to get it back.
Update: You’ll notice that the North Node is also in the second house, which indicates financial gain. A very kind soul unexpectedly sent me enough money to cover the loss of the card. And no, the card was never recovered.
Back by popular demand! Here’s another example of the tradtional Lenormand couples spread along with the rules. I’m posting the rules first, but fear not, we are going to work through an entire real spread with them.
On the Lady’s side:
Above the Lady: Her thoughts and plans
Left of the Lady: Her hopes and desires
Right of the Lady: Qualities she displays in the relationship
Below the Lady: Her feelings
On the Gentleman’s side:
Above the Gentleman: His thoughts and plans
Right of the Gentleman: His hopes and desires
Left of the Gentleman: Qualities he displays in the relationship
Below the Gentleman: His feelings
Note that Hopes & Desires and Displayed Qualities switch positions for each party. That’s because the Lady is at the left, and the Gentleman is at the right, so we can see the Displayed Qualities – how they act towards each other – falling together. It makes a combination showing how they interact with each other as well as showing each of their separate actions. The blog has space limitations, so we can’t lay it out properly here, but in real life you can. Still, you ought to be able to follow it here just fine, or you can take out your own deck and lay the cards properly.
Now, after you’ve interpreted the cards for each person, add up the numbers of the person’s cards (discounting the significator, which means you don’t add in the number 28 or 29, for the Lady or Gent respectively), then reduce the number to 36 or lower, and add that in as a general advice card for each of them. You can also read the two-card combo for a little information on where the relationship is heading. And then you can add those two cards together to get a likely outcome card for the relationship.
So let’s go through all that step-by-step, and take a look at the Lady first:
Okay, it doesn’t take much to realise this relationship is in serious trouble. The Scythe falls directly above the Lady, indicating her thoughts, and she’s thinking of ending it. Well, let’s see if we can see why. First, we know that the Scythe appearing above a person card is causing them to feel very troubled and oppressed. To the left of the Lady is the House, which is her hopes and desires – she wants a stable, solid relationshp, and it appears that isn’t what’s happening with this man. Directly below the Lady, indicating her feelings, is the Cross. She’s in pain here, but may be hanging on out of a sense of responsibility to the Gentleman. And how is she acting towards him? To her right, we see the Fox. Now there could be a little deceit going on, but given the rest of the reading, I’m thinking it looks more like she’s playing her cards close to her chest – she’s not doing or saying much right now, she’s protecting herself from hurt. Fox can indicate that sometimes instead of out-and-out deceit, and given the pain she’s feeling from the Cross, I’m thinking it’s more self-protection that’s happening than outright lies. She’s not telling him everything, but her reasons seem to be more for keeping the peace than for lying to him. This woman is on the verge of walking out, and she doesn’t want it to be any more painful than it has to be.
Let’s take a look at the Gentleman’s side now:
Our Gentleman has the Whips in his thoughts position. There’s been a lot of arguing going on between these two, and he’s preoccupied with it. So this confirms the Lady’s current peace at any price stance. To the right of the Gentleman, we see the Fishes, indicating his hopes and desires. Mostly, this guy wants money, and there are some indications here that he may be a little too fond of the bottle, as well.
So we can already see a good deal of the source of the conflict. The Lady wants a nice, stable home with a good relationship, and the Gentleman appears to be a bit of a workaholic, and probably not spending too much time with her. And when they do spend time they argue. She wants him home, he’s convinced he has to spend more time making more money. There’s more to it than that, obviously, but that’s one of the things that’s driving them apart, and sadly, one we’re seeing all too often in today’s world.
Let’s see what else is happening with the Gentleman. Uh-oh. His feelings, which are shown in the card beneath him, are the Snake. Now this could mean one of two things, or it could mean both of them. He wants a career-minded woman (this is the Snake), or possibly he’s already having thoughts about or actually having an affair with a woman who meets that description. OUCH. And that gives us more of the puzzle as to why he and the Lady are fighting.
As to how he’s acting in the relationship, we get the Child. In this case, I’m going to read the Child as him giving very little (remember that ‘a little bit, not very much’ is one interpretation of the Child), as well as acting naive or oblivious to the Lady’s concerns, or arguing with her when she brings them up. Now look back and see that the Lady is acting the Fox. She knows something’s wrong, probably knows what it is, hence both her pain (Cross), and thoughts of ending it entirely (Scythe).
Now, I’ll give you a tip here. Do we see any indication that the Gentleman is actually thinking of walking out in his cards? Actually, we don’t. Yes, there’s fighting, and yes, there may be another woman, but we have no indication that he’s going to leave the Lady. It’s she who’s thinking of leaving him. At best, with him we see a situation of having his cake and eating it, too. The relationship isn’t uncomfortable enough for him to bail, and it looks like he doesn’t see a problem with having both the Lady, and another woman on the side. People can be like that – bear it in mind. We get another indication of this from the Child card in his actions in the relationship. Yes, he’s playing naive, but he’s also depending on the Lady to keep the house running, the laundry done, the meals cooked, and what have you. It may not be the ideal, but it isn’t that uncomfortable for the Gent.
Whole different story for her, though.
Not a happy situation for these two, though I think it’s probably worse for her than it is for him. What to do? Can it be salvaged? Let’s take a look at the overall card for each of them.
For the Lady, we need to add up the following numbers: 10 (Scythe), 4 (House), 14 (Fox), and 36 (Cross). 10 + 4 + 14 + 36 = 64. That’s not going to do it, so we add 6 + 4 together to reduce the number to 36 or less, and end up with 10 – the Scythe.
For the Gentleman, we need to add up 11 (Whips), 13 (Child), 34 (Fishes), and 7 (Snake). This gives us 65, so we add 6 + 5 together, and come up with 11, the Whips.
When you add 10 + 11 together, you get 21, the Mountain.
So their outcome is:
If there’s any way on earth to save this one, I can’t see it. We have arguments tearing the two of them apart, nothing bringing them together, and an impassable obstacle to look forward to if it continues. They’d be living in the same house in total estrangement, and she just can’t take that. And not to make this anymore of a grim fairy tale, but when you see Scythe + Whips, or even the other way around, especially with the Mountain following, you may be looking at a situation where domestic violence is the likely outcome.
Best to end it now, I think.
You will get these readings for clients. Maybe not quite this dire, but some of them will be, and some will be worse. Happy people don’t go to fortune tellers, and one of the things most people are unhappy about is their love lives. So think carefully before you speak. I’m not suggesting you sugar-coat – in a situation like this it’s obvious there’s already a lot of pain, and it’s not getting any easier. And there doesn’t look to be a way out, not if they stay together. But do be kind in explaining this to your clients. Please. Because if they’re already in a world of hurt, they need you to acknowledge that – and sometimes, to just give them confirmation of what they already know.
It would be nice if there was always a happy ending, but often times there isn’t, and if you work in fortune telling, you’re likely to be the last stop for a lot of these folks. It doesn’t mean you can’t help. You can see what’s happening clearly if you’re good, and that means a lot. Most clients are tremendously appreciative of honesty, so long as you’re tactful. But you can’t always show people a way to put things back together again.
Anyway, this is how the spread is done, and I hope it’s given you some help or insight or pointers to work your way through it.
Take care all -
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I want to share a spread with you that I find to be both very powerful and helpful, and that you can use with any oracle, including playing cards.
In this case, it’s playing cards with a twist, and it was an intense reading (and yes, permission was granted to post). I used JJ Grandville’s Living Flowers. It’s published by Lo Scarabeo and available for about $5 US or less at most speciality card shops – it also turns up new on eBay quite often. Obviously I’m not using traditional playing card meanings for this reading; I’ve opted to use flower language instead.
You can see all the prints from Les Fleurs Animées, the book Grandville illustrated and from which the playing cards were taken, here.
This is a spread to work through blocks from either your past, or if you believe in such things, a past life, that are interfering with your current life. It’s best to use for serious situations, or for patterns that keep popping up and sabotaging you. This one isn’t for casual.
The one other situation I can think of where this spread would work a treat is for you writers out there! Is one of your characters stuck at a critical point in the story? Use the spread to find out why. It will help give them some development, and perhaps show you the direction to take them in, or what they might do next.
For the spread, you lay the cards out across, like so:
1 – 2 – 3
4 – 5 – 6
But the spread is read by combining the cards in the vertical columns only – you don’t read the horizontal combinations.
The first vertical column, cards 1 and 4, shows you the past, or the past life event or circumstances that are still echoing around the situation now, and causing the problem or block.
The second vertical column, cards 2 and 5, shows you how that event, circumstance, or influence is affecting your current situation.
The third vertical column, cards 3 and 6, will show you what you can learn on a deep level, or what you can attain, if you work through the block.
People have been getting some really profound insights from this spread so I encourage you to try it. I imagine it would work very well with Tarot, Symbolon, Lenormand, or any oracle of choice – and of course, with playing cards.
I didn’t realise the Joker was still in the pack when I went to shuffle (it doesn’t look like a normal joker), but given its meaning I decided to keep it – it was the first card that came up.
This is a reading about a relationship issue for a couple who obviously care for each other very much, and I did the reading for the lady. The problem is they never seem to be able to get past the ‘just good friends’ stage, and have been doing the ‘almost but not quite’ dance for years. Whilst they get along brilliantly, they’re both painfully shy with each other about their feelings for one another. She wanted to know if there was a reason for that absolutely tongue-tied-terror that goes past simple shyness, and isn’t characteristic of either of them in most situations, and if there was a way to get past it. So here’s the spread with pictures (once again, I apologise for the quality of my scanner – the cards are much prettier in person), and the card interpretations:
Joker, the Immortelle flower, meaning everlasting, I think of thee, never ceasing memory.
Jack Spades, The Marvel of Peru, meaning shyness. In French, this flower is often called Belle-de-Nuit, or Beauty of the Night. I’m told that Americans call these flowers 4 O’clocks, or Umbrellawort.
5 Spades, Nasturtium, meaning sad memories, a funeral or a visit to a grave
7 Diamonds, Bay laurel, meaning I change but in death (notice the heart shape with the sword going through it)
Queen Diamonds, Tulip, meaning a declaration of love
6 Diamonds, Camellia, meaning gratitude; perfect loveliness
The first card, the Joker, seems to indicate that this does indeed stretch back – the immortelle flower meaning everlasting memories and thoughts of each other, so if you believe in past lives, these two go back. And the Marvel of Peru seems to indicate that the shyness has been an ongoing theme as well. Perhaps they were of different social classes, or there was some other obstacle preventing them from being officially together?
Now you can’t see it too well on the scan, but notice the Scythe of Death lays broken at the bottom of the Immortelle card, and if you look closely at the real card, or at the picture online at the New York Public Library, that gold halo at the top appears to be a wedding ring. Wow.
The second column makes me think that life is short. It also makes me think that perhaps in their last life together, one of these two died tragically (likely him, as the reading is for her), and she was left with much grief and very painful memories, but because they were kept from being together socially, she had no one to confide in, so she suffered this burden alone. And the echoes of that fear are making her afraid even still. I can understand that, these are powerfully painful cards.
His shyness may well come from the fact that he abandoned the woman he loved, even though it was through death – and he doesn’t want to put her through that kind of pain again.
I think the third column is saying if they do – well – if she makes that declaration of love (which was met with: Gulp – I can’t! I Literally Cannot Do It!), that perhaps, perhaps, they’ll find the gold at the end of the painbow, or at the very least, a lovely and loving relationship with each other.
The camellia plant is also used to make several types of green tea and white tea, so perhaps over tea, they might discuss….? I suggested it. And I do hope it happens.
There is more to this story, but I cannot post it publically. Still, even as is, it’s a powerful reading. And I hope you’ll find the technique useful in your own personal work.
For those interested in or intrigued by Victorian Flower Language, here are a few links that you might enjoy. The Language of Flowers has an extensive reference database of flower meanings, Meaningful Bouquets, because flowers can be combined just like cards to send a special message (where do you think the slogan Say it with flowers came from?), and an interesting academic paper (it’s in PDF format) on The Subversive Use of Flower Language in Victorian Novels.
I love The Victorian Flower Oracle. So much for unbiased reviews, but JJ Grandville, sometimes known as the Father of Surrealism, is possibly my favourite artist ever. I could wax poetic about his wickedly sharp perceptions of the world, but you’ll connect with them or not by seeing his work. I also happen to love Flower Language, though the Flower Language used in the oracle is based more on what Grandville drew than on traditional Victorian Flower Language (the pictures are taken from his book Les Fleurs Animées). Long out of print, but Magic Realist Press has done a wonderful job in making 40 of the lithographs available to the public again with this deck. It’s available as a deck alone, or a book-and-deck set – and the book isn’t half-bad. I found the set at Chapters in Canada for $17, but the price seems to have jumped to $31.50, so check around. This one is worth having.
I wanted to do a couple of readings for you so you could see the deck in action, but they both came out so shockingly personal that I really don’t feel comfortable interpreting them here. But I do need to show you some of these wonderful cards. And you really need this deck. When you read with it yourself, you’ll get it. Believe me. So I leave you with three pictures. It may be that the deck hits me so profoundly because of the sense of connection I’ve always felt with Grandville, but I doubt it would be wasted on anyone. When readings go as deep as they do with the VFO, you can seldom interpret for anyone else. But it’s a wonderful deck to have for yourself. Enjoy. I promise to be back to my usual cynical self by the next blog entry. Right now I just want to be blown away with some beauty, so please forgive my indulgence.
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I don’t know what it is with me this week (maybe it’s just because everybody is asking), but let’s take a look at another form of relationship trap.
We know Tree and Tower can both be bad cards when you see them around a person regarding a relationship. Depending on placement they aren’t always (if you are looking for a life partner and see the Tree next to the Lady or Gentleman without bad cards around, you’ve probably found her or him), but as a rule, they tend to be. Yesterday we talked about two people feeling trapped by duty. What if only one feels that way?
One of the ways that shows up is:
Tree (directly above the Gentleman), Clouds, Tower, Gentleman, for those who can’t see the cards.
The Clouds tend to make you feel mired in obligation and depression – you owe somebody – and quite often it’s real. The Tree usually also makes you feel obligated and gives a strong feeling of needing to do the right thing, and the Tower can represent a situation you simply cannot get out of. Since the Clouds are somewhat nebulous, you may also find that you’re spending a lot of time wishing you were anywhere else – only it never comes to more than wishing. I’ve used the Gentleman in this example, but it could as easily be the Lady. If both the Gentleman and the Lady happen to fall after the Tower, they both feel trapped (again, we’re talking in this particular constellation of cards). Also note that if you put the House in the place of either the Tower or the Tree, you’ll get pretty much the same results, though the person isn’t likely to be quite as depressed. But it’s still not a good situation. The Anchor will have much the same effect as well. This is because both the House and especially the Anchor, represent commitments in some form. With the House, it may be more of an unpleasant period (especially with the economy in the state it’s in in many countries these days – the financial stress of paying off a mortgage, for example). With the Anchor, the commitment, the obligation someone feels, will weigh even more heavily.
If you’re reading for a client, this is usually how this combination plays out. Should you be reading for yourself about a possible love interest – this is the classic ‘my wife/husband doesn’t understand me’ combination. If you know for a fact the person is single and it comes up, be very very wary – because this isn’t a situation you want to end up in. If you’re already married and you’re there – think very hard – and not in a daydreamy way – about what you can concretely do to alleviate some of those pressures, assuming that you do want to keep your marriage together. Nobody deserves to be that unhappy.